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Sexual Jargon
This page details alphabetically some
of the sexual terminology you may come across generally, in
adult chat rooms or in adult personal ads.
420
refers to
marijuana use
AC/DC
Person who
enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI;
BISEXUAL)
ADULT
Euphemism for
pornographic.
ALL CULTURES
Person or
couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see
CULTURE)
AMERICAN CULTURE
Man on top, the
missionary position.
ANAL SEX
Anal
intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE)
ANALINGUS
Oral contact or
stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or
sucking of the other.
ANIMAL TRAINING
Sexual activity
with animals, usually dogs and women (see BESTIALITY)
ARTS
Euphemism for
fetishes (see CULTURE)
B&D or B/D
Bondage and
discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while
administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her
"slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)
BBW
Big Beautiful
Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight,
but are comfortable with the size that they are..
BDSM
A combination
of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance &
Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual
activities having to do with power.
BESTIALITY
(see ANIMAL
TRAINING)
BI
Bisexual:
Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS
A Male or
Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE
Unusual sexual
desires
BONDAGE
A sexual fetish
in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather
straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual
partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant"
while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BUKKAKE
a Japanese
sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from
one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and,
therefore, those on the giving end are always male.
CAN ENTERTAIN
Advertiser
willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser
willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING
A spanking
fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light
wood.
CHEATING
Sexual activity
with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN
Hygienic; Free
of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR
(see CLOSED
SWINGING)
CLOSED SWINGING
Sexual
interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the
same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
CLOSET SWINGER
A person who
hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLE
In swinging, a
man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating),
committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for
swinging purposes.
CPL
(see COUPLE)
CUCKOLD
While the
originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has
come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays
without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also
mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is
forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since
different people use the word to mean different things, it is
best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the
definition.
CULTURE
Euphemism for
Fetish or Arts.
CUNNILINGUS
Stimulation of
the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and
lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
D/D FREE
Drug/Disease
Free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not
use drugs.
DILDO
An artificial
penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation
of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR
The term used
to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates
a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the
director and is responsible for party or club operation whether
or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish
in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant.
Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner,
ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful
beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION
Asking those
who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others
who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or
made aware of the swinging activity.
DOCILE
Willing to
receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING
Submissive
obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating
nature.
DOUBLE PENETRATION
Being
penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to
anal and vaginal, may also include oral)
DP
Double
Penetration
DOMINANT
A sexual
partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
ENGLISH CULTURE:
Sexual
stimulation from spanking or caning
ENTERTAIN
(see CAN
ENTERTAIN)
EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB
One that
requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time
of night).
EXHIBITIONIST
Behavior in
which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from
displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
F
Female
FELLATIO
Sexual
stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue
and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH
Sexual arousal
and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or
non-genital anatomy.
FFM or FMF
Threesome
involving two women and one man (see THREESOME)
FLAGELLATION
Sexual
stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
FRENCH CULTURE:
Oral-genital
sexual activity (see FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)
FULL SWAP
Two couples
exchanging partners for sexual intercourse (see SOFT SWAP)
FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for
sexual activity.
GAY
A homosexual
person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a
Lesbian.
GBM
Gay Black Male
GENEROUS
Refers to money
for sex.
GOLDEN SHOWER
Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS)
GREEK CULTURE:
Anal-penile
intercourse
GROUP ROOM
Room set aside
for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses
or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX
Swinging;
Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM
Gay White Male
HARD CORE
A swing party
or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and
expected.
HARD SWINGING
(see HARD CORE)
HEAD
Oral-genital
sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FALLATIO;
CUNNILINGUS)
HEDONIST
Someone who
lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual
attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL
Sexual
attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY
Sexually tense;
In need of sexual pleasure.
HUNG
Refers to a man
with a large penis.
HWP
Height-Weight
Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR
Swinging
activities in general
INDOOR SPORTS
(See INDOOR)
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
Seeks a
swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational
values.
IR
Interracial
IRL
In Real Life;
Used in ads or online chat
ISO
In Search Of;
Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEATHER
A fetish;
Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or
leather garments.
LESBIAN
A woman
sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY;
HOMOSEXUAL)
LTR
Long Term
Relationship
M
Male
MARITAL AIDS
Dildos,
vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self
and others.
MASOCHISM
Sexual
gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from
others.
MASTER/SLAVE
Participants in
a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE;
DISCIPLINE; BDSM)
MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM
Room set aside
for group sex. Principally an Western US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MBC
Married Black
Couple
MBiC
Married
Bisexual Couple
MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for
swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction
not directly related to sexual activity.
MENAGE A TROIS
Three people,
two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging
interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MFM or MMF
Threesome
involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME)
MORESOMES
More than three
people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
MWC
Married White
Couple
NASCA
The North
American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs
and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial
lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club,
General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and
magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of
learning and research.
NEWCOMERS
New people in
swinging; First-timers.
NONSMOKER
Does not smoke.
If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are
sought for swinging purposes.
OFF-PREMISE
No swinging
takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own
arrangements. Great for newcomers.
ON-PREMISE
A club where
sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually
provided for play.
OPEN DOOR
(see OPEN
SWINGING)
OPEN RELATIONSHIP
A relationship
in which participants are free to take other partners; may or
may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging
couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as
having an open marriage.
OPEN SWINGING
A couple
swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all
participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of
privacy.
ORAL-GENITAL
(see FRENCH;
CUNNILINGUS; FELLATIO; HEAD)
ORGY
Sexual
interaction among several men and women in the same room;
Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group
sex.
PARTY
Gathering of
three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES
Clothing
particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the
party and wear to change into during the party. The latter
includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other
simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best
advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily
available for erotic courting and play.
PARTY HOUSE (Western US)
A
non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of
on-premise swing parties.
PASSIVE
Quiet,
submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective
training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO
Interested in
exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with
similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY
Interested in
exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs,
color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or
movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the
making of these photographs.
POLYAMORY
A love
relationship involving more than 2 people.
P/P
Photo and phone
number (used in personal ads).
PRO
Professional;
i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGER
A person who
practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not
interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional
attachment.
RESTRAINT
Mild bondage
used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN
Group sex,
orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
ROMAN CULTURE:
Sexual orgies
RUBBER
Condom means of
contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and
smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
SAFE
Used to
describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who
has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
S.A.S.E.
Self-addressed
stamped envelope.
SBF
Single Black
Female
SBiF
Single Bisexual
Female
SBM
Single Black
Male
SGL
Single(see
SINGLE)
S&M or S/M
Sadism and
Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM)
SCAT
refers to the
use of excrament/fecal matter.
SINGLE
A swinger
without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
SOCIAL
A party, dance
or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or
magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no
swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow
a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB
A swing club,
generally private membership that offers social and swinging
activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing
parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities.
Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party
donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance
may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the
couple is rarely important.
SODOMY
Non-coital,
especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex
or same sex partner.
SOFT SWINGERS
Couples who
only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for
intercourse.
SOFT SWAP
Two couples
exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity
(defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it
is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP)
SOFT SWINGING
The term used
to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual
encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone
other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples
some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS
Same Room Sex
(see SOFT SWINGING).
STD
Sexually
Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to
replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications
in the minds of many. These social and moral implications
interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted
diseases as a medical problem.
STR or STR8
straight(see
STRAIGHT)
STRAIGHT
Any person who
is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person
who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote
non-swinging people.
SUBMISSIVE
Passive, wishes
to be dominated (see Passive)
SWAPPING
Two couples
exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL
SWAP)
SWEDISH CULTURE:
Use of the
hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
SWF
Single White
Female
SWM
Single White
Male
SWING MAGAZINE
A periodical
catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads
of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also
publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
SWINGING
An alternative
lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational
sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple
basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners;
single men and women are sometimes involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE
Style of living
with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of
friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE
Marriage
incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM
Single White
Male
TAN
Tested Antibody
Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)
THREESOME
Three people,
two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter.
(see Menage a Trois)
TICKET
A person,
usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the
male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to
swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS
Sexual aids
(see MARITAL AIDS)
TRANSGENDERED
Individual who
does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not
related to sexual orientation.
TRANSSEXUAL
Individual who
has undergone conversion from one gender to another through
surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of
gender conversion
TRANSVESTITE
A person who
receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with
the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
TRAVEL
(see CAN
TRAVEL)
TRIAD
Three people,
two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship
of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a
threesome.
TRIOLISM
Used in
personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a
common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
TUBAL LIGATION
Surgical
procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a
woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference
to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the
cutting and ligation.
UTOPIAN SWINGER
A person who
practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VANILLA
Typically
refers to non-swingers (ie. "vanilla friends")
VASECTOMY
Surgical
procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially
sterilize a male.
VERSATILE
Bisexual. (see
AC/DC)
VIBRATOR
Electrically
run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion
or holding to outer lips, clitoris, brWests and the male penis.
Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while
more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC
motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men
and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS
Fullness of
beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large
well-formed brWests; may also refer to full but well formed
hips.
VOYEUR
A person who
enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VOYEURISM
Sexual
gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual
activity.
WATERSPORTS
Typically
refers to urine play.(see GOLDEN SHOWER)
WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS
Those people
interested in activities usually considered by the majority to
be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
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